What to Expect at a 20 Year High School Reunion (Plus Tips on Attending!)

I was hesitant to attend my 20 year high school reunion, after all the last high school reunion I went to featured the well-known cliques in every corner; popular, farmers, stoners & book worms. Unfortunately, I was always just the shy girl who everyone thought was “quiet, but nice” so my clique was absent. Feeling awkward and insecure (just like high school) I ate my dinner, chatted with a handful of people and went home.

I wanted this reunion to be different.

What to Expect at a 20 Year High School Reunion
(Plus Tips on Attending!)

For this 20 year high school reunion I thought if I could get a good group of core friends to go, what could be the harm. If nothing else, it would be a great opportunity to get dressed up, eat a fine meal and hang out with the people who I still kept in touch with.

We ended up with a group of about 8 core friends to attend the 20 year high school reunion, I felt safe with that. At least one of them should be easy to locate in a crowded room if I needed a friendly face.

The best thing my class did was organize a pre-reunion get together at a local bar. It was a great opportunity to be reacquainted with people on a smaller scale. Thanks to the wonders of Facebook there were about 40 of the 250 classmates that showed up to the day before party. Fun!

The night of the big event was a bit overwhelming, yet fantastic. I was so surprised when it was time to leave and there were still  people that I hadn’t been able to catch up with. The best part is that with the combination of the reunion and Facebook, it has opened up endless friendship and event opportunities.

What to Expect at a 20 Year High School Reunion (Plus Tips on Attending!)

Annette White at High School Reunion

Tips for attending your 20 year high school reunion:

  • The first tip is to realize that you are not the only one who is nervous! Just about everyone I spoke to had some sort of fear or anxiety associated with attending the reunion. You are all in the same boat.

    This post may help with your fear: Overcoming Anxiety to Live Your Dream: 8 Tips to Facing Your Fears

  • Reconnect with old friends prior to the reunion, so there isn’t such an awkward feeling on that day. A great way to do this is to simply contact them through social media or email just to see if they are planning on going to the reunion. If they are open to it, have a little get together before the actual day of the event. The more familiar faces, the less anxiety on that day!
  • Select your outfit well in advance so you do not to add to the stress on the day of.

    Need help deciding? Check out this article about what to wear and these 15 stunning outfits.

  • Skim the yearbook (and social media!) prior to arrival to help remembering your classmates faces. It’s rough when you are staring someone in the face and they look familiar, but you can’t really remember their name.
  • Let it go! Attend the reunion with an open mind, don’t hang on to old grudges—after 20 years people change (or at least you hope so).
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  3. Kerry July 8, 2014 at 11:49 am - Reply

    I haven’t yet reached my twenty-year reunion mark, but almost. I was a lot like you, from the sounds of it. I was quiet and shy and was on the outskirts of any group. I was always thought to be “nice” by my classmates, but not much more than that. It was only the other night that I had the opportunity to attend a reunion of sorts, in the form of an old friend’s wedding reception. Here is my post about it:
    Facebook is exactly how I’ve gotten and kept in touch with many of these people. It’s nice to keep that connection to the person you used to be as time moves forward constantly.

    • Annette White July 8, 2014 at 10:09 pm - Reply

      Let me start by saying that you are a talented writer. I was completely drawn in by your “Sherry Baby” story. Facebook has been a fabulous way to stay connected with classmates. What has surprised me the most is that I typically communicate more now with the ones that I never spoke to in high school!

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