Spend the Evening Going to the Movies Alone

going to the movies aloneLet’s face it, there is a stigma attached to going to the movies alone. I don’t know why, I did not create it, I don’t like it…it just is. Though I have never been opposed to going to the theater by myself, I had not done it previously and it was about time to take myself on a date. I am not a loner, but I do a lot of stuff alone. Why? Because a long time ago I vowed to not let fear, insecurity or simply lack of friends availability to keep me from having amazing experiences.

I do have many friends, a loving family and a willing spouse, but sometimes they are not inclined or able to do all the things I want to. And sometimes that means I will be going to the movies alone.

So, why should I sacrifice living life to the fullest?

I was recently on a semi-vacation in Arizona by myself and really wanted to see The Social Network. In general, I don’t go to the movies too often since the monumental creation of Netflix, but I just couldn’t pass up this opportunity to check another item off my bucket list. I chose the late afternoon showing on a Saturday, not the recommended time choice if you are trying to avoid oodles of people.

Potential anxieties of going to the movies alone ensue…

1. Standing in line alone. Not as bad as you would think, for all these people know, I could be meeting someone inside.

2. Choosing a seat. I chose a seat close to the aisle with vacancies on either side of me…maybe I will make friends. A family of three sat directly to my right. Now, I wasn’t alone at all. Anyone watching would think that I was a part of this family. Do you think the woman next to me would mind if I rested my head on her shoulder?

3. Leaving the show. Amidst the crowd of exiting masses, no one would suspect I came by myself. Even though there was no one to immediately discuss the movie with, I phoned a friend later.

When it comes down to it, most people really don’t pay as much attention to what you are doing as you think. People are really wrapped up in their own lives. So, work through your insecurities and don’t pass up an opportunity to have an incredible experience.

Would going to the movies alone be on your bucket list?




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  2. Miranda November 24, 2010 at 5:16 pm - Reply

    I consider myself super independent, but I haven't made it to a movie alone yet. However, this is on my list of 31 before 31 so I'll get it done this year. Thanks for making it more reachable!

  3. Noor Azlina Abdul Samad K. November 24, 2010 at 7:50 pm - Reply

    Hi Annette!
    I've done it before……I didn't have anyone at the time to go to the cinema with me…..so I faced my fears and went alone to watch Star Wars Episode 1 all by myself hehehehe. It was worth it!!!! I'd do it again anytime. 🙂

  4. C.C. November 24, 2010 at 11:39 pm - Reply

    This actually was one of the first things I did to help me start traveling on my own.  Now…I actually prefer going to the movies by myself.   There usually are great deals for the morning showings, or going odd days during the week.

  5. Taigh Smyth November 25, 2010 at 8:02 am - Reply

    Nice!  This is definitely something I want to do.  Another great idea 🙂

  6. Jessica November 27, 2010 at 11:21 am - Reply

    I guess I didn't get the memo that there was a stigma attached to going to the movies alone.  I LOVE going to the movies alone.  I tend to have different tastes in movies than my friends/husband and I never like dragging someone to see something they don't want to see.  Its a waste of money and they'll probably complain the whole time, making it less enjoyable for me.  But I'm a big loner and often do things that most do with others. I've even vacationed by myself.  I guess to really push myself I need to do something like take a romantic horse drawn carriage ride by myself!

  7. Elle November 28, 2010 at 7:51 am - Reply

    I consider myself to be pretty independent and don't mind doing stuff solo.  I went to Europe on my own and I prefer to shop alone rather than with a group of people.  I am hesitant about going to the movies on my own or eating dinner in a restaurant alone.  The strange thing is, I'll eat lunch by myself but not dinner.  Weird, I know.

  8. Kosho December 7, 2010 at 3:13 pm - Reply

    I have no problem going to the movies by myself.  First one I saw on my own was back when I was a teenager and I wanted to see ET.  The problem with that one was that I did sort of choke back some tears during the ET-almost-dying scene.  
    Disadvantages to seeing movies by yourself:
    1:  Some people might think you're either a loser or a creep.  For this reason, never see a romantic or teen comedy on your own. 
    2:  You might see your ex who stomped your heart with their new love interest.
    3:  Nobody to watch your stuff when you step out of the theater for a nature call.  This is the only one that I have personal experience with.  When I walked back toward my seat I found my bag sitting in the aisle close to the entrance to the theater.  Nothing was gone out of it.  I grabbed it, sat back down in my seat, and noticed a sketchy character sitting in the aisle.  I asked him if he grabbed my bag and he said 'no' but he thinks he might have seen who did it.  I gave him the look of death and he left rapidly.
    Advantages to seeing movies by yourself:
    1:  Popcorn and M&Ms (smuggle in the M&Ms) are their own food group.  Plus you don't have to share so there is none of the debates (peanut vs. plain, buttered vs. no butter vs. kettle corn).
    2:  For an immersion movie such as Inception or Schindler's List nobody cares if you're by yourself, you don't have to answer questions, and you get to 'lose yourself' in the movie.  Isn't that what movies are supposed to be about?
    3:  You get to sit where you want to and people will typically respect the 'one-seat buffer' rule.  Hell-llo leg room, one seat for your backpack, another seat for your popcorn and M&Ms.
    4:  It actually is a great way to meet people from your Gender of Interest.
    5:  If the movie sucks you get to leave (I've only done this twice).

  9. Lorna December 28, 2010 at 6:22 pm - Reply

    First time I actually did it was when I was travelling on my own. I just felt like doing something that seemed normal to me one day. I had those thoughts someone would think I am a loner, but to be honest most people are too busy doing their own thing and if you really have a look usually you are not the only one on your own. These days if there is a movie I want to see I just go with someone or not.

  10. Jennifer Nixon (@jenniferbnixon) August 9, 2011 at 7:40 am - Reply

    Annette this post inspiried me to get over my anxiety and do it too – so i went on Sunday! you were totally right and my fears were completely unfounded!! xx

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  22. Kerry July 8, 2014 at 11:20 pm - Reply

    Yeah, speaking of…how was The Social Network? I believe I saw it on Netflix, but should I put in the time to watch it, in your opinion? 🙂

    • Annette White July 9, 2014 at 4:42 pm - Reply

      Loved The Social Network!!! But, I am pretty geeky when it comes to tech stuff.

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